When Your Spouse Works Night Shift

My husband and I are on different work shifts – I work days and he works nights. I’m here to tell you that it isn’t always easy being on a different schedule than your spouse but here are a couple things I’ve learned along the way.

It Can Get Lonely 

As he leaves our house for his shift at work and I’m alone in our house it gets very quiet (we don’t have kids or pets yet). Sure, I appreciate some alone time but I do get lonely especially when it’s time for bed. Over the years it has gotten better than when we were newlyweds but I do miss snuggling up to him late at night. I’ve found that keeping myself occupied with blogging, binge watching my favorite show, or talking to my friends helps keep my mind off being alone.

It Can Get Scary 

Okay – story time. We have a shampoo holder suctioned cupped to our shower wall and it was late one night (he had already gone to work) and I was in bed when suddenly I hear this loud crashing noise. You talk about scared –  I was terrified so many thoughts ran through my mind of what it could’ve been. I laid there with my heart pounding and finally mustered up enough courage to get up and see what it was. Sure enough that dang shampoo holder came off the wall and bottles of soap were scattered all on the bottom of the tub – talk about a sigh of relief!

But all that being said it can be scary staying home alone at night. When he is home I have a sense of safeness I don’t get anywhere else. Don’t let me fool you guys, I do enjoy sleeping in the middle of our king sized bed and sprawling out like a star fish but I did marry the man and I want to sleep with him! lol

Let Them Sleep 

This is a big one! Just remember that it is hard on their body’s natural cycle being on an off shift. Be patient with them and let them wake up on their own time. Even on the weekends. Do not text, call, or try to disturb them in any way. I struggled with this because I want him to come do things with me but I have to remind myself not to be selfish and let him sleep. He always gets up and yes there is always time to do plenty of fun stuff.

You Will Eat Dinner Later

Sure you don’t have to eat when your husband eats but I’ve always enjoyed sharing a meal with him at the dinner table. When he wakes up he’s initially starving so he will eat what we call his ‘breakfast’ aka a late lunch and won’t be ready for dinner until later than most. So, I’ll snack if I’m starving until we eat dinner which is anywhere around 7:30-8:30. Now my body has gotten used to eating that late so I don’t mind it at all.

You Will Take Awesome Naps Together

I love a good nap and I don’t know many people who don’t. When my husband doesn’t sleep well or doesn’t get in 8 hours you guarantee there will be a nap before work. Most of the time I am home for these naps so I get to enjoy them with him!

You Will get into The Groove of Things

After a while and you may even start liking the opposite shift thing. Like I said it wasn’t always easy for me but it has gotten easier now that we are in a routine. Just remember to stay patient and communicate how you’re feeling to each other.

I would love to hear from other woman who have significant others on an opposite shift – did you have the some of the same feelings? Are there still certain things you dislike about it? Do you love it and couldn’t imagine any other way? Let me know in the comments! 

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What I’ve Learned Building Our House

A little insight for you my husband recently embarked on the journey of building our first home together. Note, I do not use the word journey lightly. We have been working on this process since September and we are just now getting to the fun stuff! The house is not finished yet but here is what I have learned thus far.

  1. Find a great contractor. I mean it. Do your research, check out recent houses they have built, get multiple quotes, and it’s totally okay just to base this off character or first impressions because you and the contractor are going to be in contact for the next months and it’s important that you not only like their work but them too.
  2. Have a vision. You are about to be bombarded with questions with everything between “what type of exterior do you want” to “where do you want this outlet placed”. Make a Pinterest board, find a house you like and take photos, read a magazine, whatever it is get inspired.
  3. Do not be afraid to speak up. I struggled with this throughout the whole process. If something is not exactly the way you want it, tell them. My husband constantly has to remind me that I am not inconveniencing them.
  4. Be patient. Did I mention we have been working on this since September? Haha. Seriously though take the move in date the contractor gives you and go ahead and add a couple of weeks to it so you’re not disappointed. There will be set backs, weather delays, holidays, you name it but do not get discouraged your house will get completed.
  5. Have fun. While this can be stressful process, remember to have fun. This season of life only last a little while and before you know it you will be in your house for 5 years. So sit back and buy some fun things for around the house and smile because you’re one step closer to move in day!

Here are some photos of our process thus far – if you have any questions of anything seen below in my photos feel free to comment below.

House PlansOur plans from architecturaldesigns.com plan #11777HZ // featuring a sample house which I really liked seeing actual photos of houses from the plans.

Footers

FoundationSnowy footers and beginning of the foundation // the boring stuff haha

Floor Mapped OutThe rooms all laid out // Don’t panic if you’re in this stage of building it will feel much smaller than it does by the end of it all, trust me.

FramingTyvek is UpRoofing ProcessFraming/Windows/Exterior doors/Roofing – Roof Color is ‘Weathered Wood’ // This process goes by quick the rest after this takes a little longer, like I said previously stay patient! 🙂

Front of House Siding Process Siding and Windows‘This is ex-siding’ – see what I did there? haha

We chose a wider vinyl siding (6 inches) to resemble baton board. This siding also has a beveled edge to it. I was inspired by the Sherwin Williams color: Backdrop and the contractor found this siding color called PUEBLO and it was almost identical.

We also added windows to this side of the house. Previously it would have just been the tiny window above the shower in the guest bathroom. We are so happy with the decision to add the windows. They really opened up the bedrooms and brought in a lot of natural light, which we love.

Damaged Window

Mistakes happen // We noticed this chipped window and told our contractor immediately and he fixed it no charge because one of the sub-contractors broke it while working.

Stone Exterior

The Stone by Horizon Stone  // this stone color is ‘Pinehurst Blend’ applied in ‘Olde World Series’ which basically means it combines different shapes and sizes of stone.

FireplaceFront Porch

More Stone Accents // again this stone color is ‘Pinehurst Blend’ applied in ‘Olde World Series’ which basically means it combines different shapes and sizes of stone.

Dry WallWe have dry wall // also look at the mess! 🙂 Master Closet

Standing in my favorite room of the house aka my walk in closet // Storage was big for us and this house delivered with a total of 8 closets! Paint SamplesPicking out paint color// This is such an important yet simple thing to do. Buy samples of the paint you like and paint them on the wall. Paint a sample in a spot that will be in the sun and then in the shade later you’d be amazed at how different paint looks on the wall then on the paint chip and in different lighting.

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