My husband and I are on different work shifts – I work days and he works nights. I’m here to tell you that it isn’t always easy being on a different schedule than your spouse but here are a couple things I’ve learned along the way.
It Can Get Lonely
As he leaves our house for his shift at work and I’m alone in our house it gets very quiet (we don’t have kids or pets yet). Sure, I appreciate some alone time but I do get lonely especially when it’s time for bed. Over the years it has gotten better than when we were newlyweds but I do miss snuggling up to him late at night. I’ve found that keeping myself occupied with blogging, binge watching my favorite show, or talking to my friends helps keep my mind off being alone.
It Can Get Scary
Okay – story time. We have a shampoo holder suctioned cupped to our shower wall and it was late one night (he had already gone to work) and I was in bed when suddenly I hear this loud crashing noise. You talk about scared – I was terrified so many thoughts ran through my mind of what it could’ve been. I laid there with my heart pounding and finally mustered up enough courage to get up and see what it was. Sure enough that dang shampoo holder came off the wall and bottles of soap were scattered all on the bottom of the tub – talk about a sigh of relief!
But all that being said it can be scary staying home alone at night. When he is home I have a sense of safeness I don’t get anywhere else. Don’t let me fool you guys, I do enjoy sleeping in the middle of our king sized bed and sprawling out like a star fish but I did marry the man and I want to sleep with him! lol
Let Them Sleep
This is a big one! Just remember that it is hard on their body’s natural cycle being on an off shift. Be patient with them and let them wake up on their own time. Even on the weekends. Do not text, call, or try to disturb them in any way. I struggled with this because I want him to come do things with me but I have to remind myself not to be selfish and let him sleep. He always gets up and yes there is always time to do plenty of fun stuff.
You Will Eat Dinner Later
Sure you don’t have to eat when your husband eats but I’ve always enjoyed sharing a meal with him at the dinner table. When he wakes up he’s initially starving so he will eat what we call his ‘breakfast’ aka a late lunch and won’t be ready for dinner until later than most. So, I’ll snack if I’m starving until we eat dinner which is anywhere around 7:30-8:30. Now my body has gotten used to eating that late so I don’t mind it at all.
You Will Take Awesome Naps Together
I love a good nap and I don’t know many people who don’t. When my husband doesn’t sleep well or doesn’t get in 8 hours you guarantee there will be a nap before work. Most of the time I am home for these naps so I get to enjoy them with him!
You Will get into The Groove of Things
After a while and you may even start liking the opposite shift thing. Like I said it wasn’t always easy for me but it has gotten easier now that we are in a routine. Just remember to stay patient and communicate how you’re feeling to each other.
I would love to hear from other woman who have significant others on an opposite shift – did you have the some of the same feelings? Are there still certain things you dislike about it? Do you love it and couldn’t imagine any other way? Let me know in the comments!