RSVP Cards A Thing Of The Past?

It’s a typical day you get off work, pick up the kids, maybe run to the grocery store you come home and before pulling into your driveway you check the mail- Junk, junk, bill, oh wedding invite! You quickly pull into the driveway and put the mail you’ve collected in your designated mail pile on the counter. Then your evening turns into your daily afternoon routine and the next thing you know weeks have passed before finally opening and actually reading the invite you received. You put it on the fridge and go about your life. Next thing  you know its 2 weeks before the wedding and you haven’t filled out that RSVP card saying you’re coming. Surely the bride and groom know you’re coming right? I mean after-all you’re family or close co-workers and you’ve spoken to them about the wedding, you’ve talked to them on the phone about details, but you forgot that one thing – mailing the dang RSVP card back!

The point of that story is – Life gets in the way and yes maybe we as humans shouldn’t be THAT busy where we can’t even get to the mailbox but it happens, it happens all the time. There has to be a better way right? I know I’m not the inventor of the alternative RSVP card but I’m here to bring awareness that there are other options.

Ideas that make the process easier for you and them:

  • Set up an email specifically for RSVPs – quick and easy set up and you’ll still have a ‘paper trail’ of everyone who said they were or weren’t coming.
  • Add your phone number with a simple line that says text or call us if you’re coming!
  • Add your wedding planner or designated person’s phone number to the invite – this way it’s one less thing you have to worry about while still getting your headcount.

Not only will this make it easier for your guest to say their coming but this will also save you time and money since you don’t have to buy postage, another envelope, and address another card for them to maybe send back.

So, are RSVP cards going to be a thing of the past? I would love to hear your opinion on this, leave comments below!

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  1. I always have a hard time remembering to RSVP to parties and stuff. I like the idea of being able to email or send a quick text, making it a little more convenient.

    1. I totally agree, I forget more times than not. I was focusing on weddings and totally forgot about parties – the perfect solution.

    1. Happy wedding planning! 🙂 I used this for my own wedding and had people call – it was super convenient plus I got to catch up or answer any questions people may have had while on the phone.

    1. Yes everyone is so connected these days whether it be through social media, text, calls, or email! 🙂

  2. I still get RSVP cards sometimes, but for my own wedding I did an email response. Postage is one of the unsung expenses of weddings. People don’t realize how much sending actual invites are! To help save on that (since I know it’s etiquette to send a reply/RSVP card with a stamped envelope), we didn’t do that. We made nice invites and save the dates, but just had an easy website for people to RSVP to. But we did something easy enough that even my grandmother figured it out!

    1. That’s awesome! I totally forgot about websites -did you use wedding wire or something else? I love that idea. 🙂

    1. I totally agree – but maybe for your next party you could use the online rsvp or spread the advice to a newly engaged couple! 🙂

  3. So true! Isn’t crazy how life is just so busy to take the time to do one simple thing? I think it’s best to provide your guests with an RSVP online or regrets only.

    1. Yes and that little task is easy to forget even if you are excited for the wedding. I like the idea of regrets only as well. 🙂

  4. I like the idea of adding a phone number or email to let the them know you will be attending rather than mailing it back.

  5. Great post! I’m actually in the process of sending out wedding invitations right now and we are not doing RSVP cards. We are instead linking our guests to a website that pulls everyones information (whether they are attending, where they are staying if they are out of town, if they are bringing a guest, etc) and collates into one document for us. It’s a much more affordable option and saves time!

    1. That’s awesome I didn’t mention websites in my blog post but that is a great idea, thanks for sharing. Happy wedding planning! 🙂

  6. I love the idea of RSVPs but they are a little inconvenient. Recently I have received an invite and like you have mentioned the bride asked for a phone call, text or email to RSVP, so much simpler.

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